AHOY CHEVRA!!
 
Join Duvid Chaim’s upcoming FREEDOM FLOTILLA with the launch of two simultaneous 12-Step groups on Monday, July 26 (Tu be'Av)!
 
Click here for more details
 
Not one, but Two Ships – are launching this time!
 
You will now have a choice of two groups:

For the early birds – there is the Steve/Dov/Michael group with its daily call at 8:30 am East Coast time.

For the Lunch & Learners – there is Duvid Chaim's usual NOON time (East Coast time) group.

Both groups will be on the same page, so you can come on board one or both, or switch times …

After a stumble with Facebook, "Momo" posted on the forum:

I need to learn from my fall, and this past fall has taught me that I have to cancel my Facebook account. It's really a waste of time anyway. The only reason I've been keeping the account is to see what's new in my friend's lives, see new photos of their kids, and have all of their email addresses in one spot. So I'll be "out of the loop". I'll miss someone's birthday. I'll miss a cute photo of a kid smiling. …

Dear Guard your Eyes,
 
My husband is 30 years old and we've been married for 8 years. For the last 7 years (perhaps even longer, I don’t know) he's been a Lust addict. I've caught him with newspapers, with a magazine, on the internet, masturbating, etc. There have been many ups and downs over the years (mostly downs) and I'm slowly reaching a point of despair. I am so full of questions and doubts, and most of all I have no-one to talk to. We recently started therapy with someone local …

One of our goals on GuardYourEyes is to help people "Hit bottom while still on top". Don't wait for the addiction to destroy your life!
 
Please read through some of these stories to see where the addiction leads to, and get the help you need now – while you’re still on top, no matter what it takes!
 
1) Where it All Leads
 
2) Serial Killers
 
3) Women tell of their husband’s (or ex-husband’s) addiction
 
4) The Typical Suffering of the Wife of an Addict
 
5) A Typical e-mail to GYE
 
6) Dov’s Story
 

 
One of …

“The Physical & Spiritual Combo” Method
TaPhSiC Method (“Tafsik” means “Stop!” in Hebrew)
 
A powerful method for Frum addicts
 
We all want to stop. Whenever we think of the “big picture”, both spiritually and physically, we realize that sooner or later we HAVE to stop. But we often feel like two different people. We ask ourselves, do I have Yiras Shamayim or don’t I? What repercussions will it take to finally stop me? Do I have any hope?
 
Here is a method that has worked well with many Frum addicts, in helping them stop …

Uri (clean for 11 days) wrote on the forum:
I'm still clean, but barely holding on. I'm in a terrible mood and I'm having trouble getting hold of myself. I was so good this week, I feel like crying. When I drove home tonight I passed town and I felt such mixed feelings. I saw teens just feeding off lust with no inhibitions. I felt angry that they could fill their needs while I sit and struggle to keep myself in check. They look so happy, while I feel so discontent.
One …

 
Daily Dose of Dov
 
Dov is sober in SA for over 13 years. See his story here.

 
Someone wrote to Dov:
 
I recently fell after a clean period of 40 days, and it hurts. How can I finally beat this thing so that I never come back to it? I want to do a real, permanent Teshuva rather than having the difficulty to build till I just lose again!
 
Dov replies:
 
Don't kill me here please; the answer may not seem to make much sense, but here it is:

Recovery has to be worked one day …

Question: MosheF asks:
I am part of a non-Jewish 12-Step SA fellowship. I wish there was a solution to the disease of addiction in yiddishkeit, but to the best of my knowledge there is none. There is hardly mention of the concept of addiction or a solution in chazal or mussar seforim. This begs for an explanation that I don't have. 

Rabbi/Dr.Twersky responded to one such question here and he writes as follows: "Whereas forbidden sexual activity certainly occurred, I doubt that the phenomenon of sexual addiction was ever brought to the attention of the authors …

I recently read a story about Rav Nosson, the Talmid of Rebbe Nachman. He was walking together with his students after a raging fire ravaged the town of Breslav. They passed by completely burned down houses, and in one of the houses, R' Nosson saw the owner of the house sifting through the ruins, trying to find or rescue some of his belongings. The fact that everything was burnt down didn't stop the owner from looking. R' Nosson turned to his students and said: "This is how we have to …

Thank you HaShem! Here are my thoughts at 90 days. As R' Twerski put it in his beautiful article on Pesach, when one is freed spiritually, then he is thankful for every second of his freedom. GYE has made me realize that the concept of Kedusha and being part of a holy nation is not just an elusive idea for “holy” people. It is within our grasp. And for this I truly have to thank HaShem for having the Zechus of having my part in His Plan. 
Contrast – Sometimes I think back …