Welcome to the GuardYourEyes Community

Welcome to the GuardYourEyes community, a vibrant network and fellowship of religious Jews of all affiliations, struggling to purify themselves and break free from inappropriate behaviors stemming from Lust addiction.
With the advance of technology and the ease of availability and privacy that the internet provides, it has become a daily struggle for many religious Jews to remain Erlich (morally and ethically upright) even in their own homes. Jewish Leaders, Rabbis and Experts worldwide, are beginning to speak out about this serious problem more and more.
Our network is comprised of a website: www.guardureyes.com, a …

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What's New »

[2 Feb 2010 | No Comment | ]

To see this letter in high resolution, click here.

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Personal Victories »

[18 Jan 2010 | One Comment | ]

After a stumble with Facebook, "Momo" posted on the forum:

I need to learn from my fall, and this past fall has taught me that I have to cancel my Facebook account. It's really a waste of time anyway. The only reason I've been keeping the account is to see what's new in my friend's lives, see new photos of their kids, and have all of their email addresses in one spot. So I'll be "out of the loop". I'll miss someone's birthday. I'll miss a cute photo of a kid smiling. …

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Stories »

[28 Jan 2010 | No Comment | ]

A famous serial killer, Ted Bundy, blames porn-addiction on his actions:
 
In the Dobson interview before his execution, Bundy said that violent pornography played a major role in his sex crimes. According to Bundy, as a young boy he found "outside the home again, in the local grocery store, in a local drug store, the soft core pornography that people called soft core… And from time to time we would come across pornographic books of a harder nature…."[122] Bundy said, "It happened in stages, gradually. My experience with pornography generally, but with pornography that deals on a violent level …

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Attitude »

[7 Feb 2010 | No Comment | ]

By "Uri"
 
Yasher Koach to those who responded so brilliantly and encouragingly on the forum. I'm going through a very trying time here, even though I'm only at 11 days; not 90, not 200, just ELEVEN. What will day 90 be like?? But I know what everyone will say: "one day at a time". On the other hand, as someone so nicely pointed out: There are around 900,000 seconds already that I said "No" to the yetzer hara. 900,000!! If those were dollars I could retire! And we all know that …

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Practical Tips »

[7 Feb 2010 | No Comment | ]

Here is some info on the iPhone:

How to Disable Safari

The iPhone OS is equipped with a "Restrictions" feature which allows you to password protect certain applications. Go to Settings -> General -> Restrictions and you can create a password for Safari. You can then forget this password and give it to someone else. If you happen to know it and want to reset it, type in the password, then disable restrictions and re-enable it. It will ask you to type in a new pass-code. NOTE : Restricting Safari will prevent …

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Torah »

[3 Feb 2010 | No Comment | ]

Uri (clean for 11 days) wrote on the forum:
I'm still clean, but barely holding on. I'm in a terrible mood and I'm having trouble getting hold of myself. I was so good this week, I feel like crying. When I drove home tonight I passed town and I felt such mixed feelings. I saw teens just feeding off lust with no inhibitions. I felt angry that they could fill their needs while I sit and struggle to keep myself in check. They look so happy, while I feel so discontent.
One …

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The 12 Steps »

[7 Feb 2010 | No Comment | ]

By "Momo"

 
Click here for info on how to join Duvid Chaim's Free 12-Step phone Conference 4 X a week, 12 PM EST.
 
Yesterday Duvid Chaim helped us understand Step 1 of the 12 steps with the Big Book: "We admitted we were powerless over lusting and that our lives had become unmanageable".
 
I love the saying we've been using in the calls: "I was once a cucumber, now I'm a pickle, and I'll never be a cucumber again." When I was very young I could lust normally, but now I'm an addict …

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Q & A »

[14 Jan 2010 | No Comment | ]

Question: MosheF asks:
I am part of a non-Jewish 12-Step SA fellowship. I wish there was a solution to the disease of addiction in yiddishkeit, but to the best of my knowledge there is none. There is hardly mention of the concept of addiction or a solution in chazal or mussar seforim. This begs for an explanation that I don't have. 

Rabbi/Dr.Twersky responded to one such question here and he writes as follows: "Whereas forbidden sexual activity certainly occurred, I doubt that the phenomenon of sexual addiction was ever brought to the attention of the authors …

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Quotables »

[7 Feb 2010 | No Comment | ]

There was a rich man who unfortunately had his business take a turn for the worse and soon found himself barely feeding his family. He noticed his son one day looking exceptionally sad. When asked why, the son explained as follows, "father, when we had money, we had all the best food – and lots of it. Now all we have is bread. But at least give us a decent amount!"
This is us. We don't have much left to give Hashem, the Beis Hamikdash is no longer here. No korbanos, …

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Testimonials »

[1 Feb 2010 | No Comment | ]

(See Aaron's story on this page)
Here is the e-mail we got from Aaron now:
B"H doing well. Still going strong, although the summer is tough. I'm one year clean this Sunday, you can  update my chart on the "Wall of Honor". That doesn't mean I'm "in control" or "recovered" though, not only are those conclusions dangerous, they're not true! I find that my madregah is proportionate to my connection to Ruchniyus. If I learn every day and occupy my mind with Torah and Hashkafah, I'm in good shape. If I …

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