If it wasn't hard to reveal a failure, the whole system wouldn't work. Be THANKFUL it's hard, and undertake to come clean whatever it takes. In this world, an embarressment is temporary and fleeting. And on this forum, it's even ANONYMOUS - for goodness sakes! But if you wait for the embaressment of the next world,
you will wish you had ran through the streets shouting "FIRE!!" when you were still alive - maybe someone could have helped you then before it was too late...
Dear MDM, Indeed no one has fallen off the "wall of honor" yet B"H. These are people who made it to 90 days. That's for two reasons.
1) Hitting 90 days seems to help change the neuron paths in the brain and make it easier to stay clean, as the study says.
2) Anyone who makes it to 90 days is someone who takes this very seriously. And such people are less likely to fall.
However, on the "90 day" chart, many people have fallen off. I've had to remove and restart at least 10, if not 15 people, since it started a few months ago...
MDM, in your honor I want to bring the Ohr Hachayim in one of the coming Chizuk e-mails. I scanned it in and marked it especially for you, this past Motzai Shabbos. It's a very important Ohr Hachayim and helps us understand the nature of this struggle. You can download it
here. I highlighted in "yellow" the important parts and in "red" the most important parts.
Stay Strong!
