Author Topic: 24 year old bochur. Is it only me? What is the way out ? How do i make teshuva ?  (Read 1427 times)

Offline habib613

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i think i need to change my name...
every time i see H___613 i go hey! what is he talking about? and then i realize this is your thread...

g'luck Help613!

Offline imtrying25

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Hey guys thanks to u lot and ur amazing msgs and post ive been doing great...
Im working on getting dif. probs solved and hope to concentrate on my learning more...
verry annoyingly the sa groups have not answerd me yet so....

hope everyone is ok and have a good night

happy to hear your doing ok!!!

i guess for know ill have to find out from here ??? ;) :D
sometimes in my tears i drown...but i never let it get me down...so when negativity surrounds...i know someday it will all turn around...

gotta hold on...livin life day by day...gotta hold on...put your focus on that one day

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Hey guys thanks to u lot and ur amazing msgs and post ive been doing great...
Im working on getting dif. probs solved and hope to concentrate on my learning more...
verry annoyingly the sa groups have not answerd me yet so....

hope everyone is ok and have a good night


Dear help613,

Please call Reb Shlachter. Even if you can't afford to pay him for therapy, he takes calls on his hotline FOR FREE. Also, he knows the guys in SA here in Israel and can help get you into a group. PLEASE CALL HIM: 052-6923065
Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World
We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest.

Offline Kedusha

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i think i need to change my name...
every time i see H___613 i go hey! what is he talking about? and then i realize this is your thread...

g'luck Help613!


Please don't (and certainly not to "Chopped liver"  ;)).
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.

Slip today? No way! ;)

Fall today? No way, Jose'! ;) ;)

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i think i need to change my name...
every time i see H___613 i go hey! what is he talking about? and then i realize this is your thread...

g'luck Help613!


Please don't (and certainly not to "Chopped liver"  ;)).

Over my head...................and thats saying alot............................ive got a HUGE head!! :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
sometimes in my tears i drown...but i never let it get me down...so when negativity surrounds...i know someday it will all turn around...

gotta hold on...livin life day by day...gotta hold on...put your focus on that one day

Offline Kollel Guy

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Wes Craven presents.....
This summer (echo: summer summer) Joseph and Eishes Potiphar Vol. II. The cursed shiksa attempts to take one of our brothers with her to the land of the living tumah. What he doesn't realize... is that even living tumah is very dead....
Coming soon on video and DVD.
Don't miss it.....
And on a serious note,
Help613 - you are the king (Just like Yosef)
You really did something so amazing last night, you have no idea how far this can and will carry you.
There are stories of people in the holocaust who's lives were saved by their relatives long dead, and they were told it was only because of the zechus of abstaining from a very tempting and available aveirah, that they were allowed to come down and go against the rules.
A normal human in your situation SHOULD FALL!!! You have to realize that when you stand up to that kind of temptation, it's not normal. It's not normally good. People just aren't that dedicated. You broke the rules!!! Congratulations..... You did it!!
The passuk in hallel says "Hayam ra'ah vayanas". The medrash says, the water originally did not want to split for klal yisroe, but when "it saw" then "it ran".
What did it see that made it run? The atzmos Yosef. The water said "My nature is to flow freely in a natural direction. Why should I change my nature for Klal Yisroel?"
When it saw the Atzmos of Yosef, who defied every law of nature, and royally feifed the way things naturally work...
"Vayanas" It RAN.
You have the power to do miracles!! Take your tefilos VERY seriously in the coming days. You don't realize how much steroids they are on now.....
The whole world is big enough to handle some smallmindedness,
but too big to fit into a small mind.

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I can understand you...it's an incredibly tough battle, because the taivah is huge - plus, it's super-flattering to have someone offer to pay your airfare, because they want you that much!

But we want you even more, and we love you. Be polite, but say no to her - tell her that she's very nice, but you need to say goodbye, for your own reasons. Then block her from your email. Take concrete steps to avoid being in touch with her, and if she's a decent person, she'll respect that.

You are truly incredible!
http://www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=1315.0

You've lost nothing. BUT YOU GAINED ETERNITY!!

Can't say I'm happy with where I've been. But I'm happy with where the road I've taken, has led me.

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KOL HAGADOL MEI'CHAVEYROH YITZROH GADOL MIMEN'U!!!!

yes it is hard. And like KG wrote you in your own special way are a YOSEF HATZADIK. Dont put yourself down. This is the truth. We need to think of ways to avoid this. Because we all know that when the tekptation is strong, how hard it is to abstain!!

Keep it up. Were all here for you.
sometimes in my tears i drown...but i never let it get me down...so when negativity surrounds...i know someday it will all turn around...

gotta hold on...livin life day by day...gotta hold on...put your focus on that one day