That it just makes no difference to try
Funny, just yesterday we had a daily dose of dov in the chizuk e-mail that said the same thing. And I quote:
"I can share with you that there are times when our "trying" is just not enough, no matter how you slice it."Instead, he suggests "Trusting harder" instead of "Trying harder"

...Check it out... It's a beautiful peice from Dov. (Like every day

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I also just want to throw in my 2 cents. We all know that success is not in
our hands. Trying
is though. Who said G-d wants you to succeed to have long streaks? Maybe he wants to see if you'll keep trying in spite of losing it every once in a while? Our business is only the NOW.... And the "trying" does add up. When we're ready, and only G-d knows that, we'll look back and find that the days we managed to stayed clean added up to a clean streak of 10 years! But for now, there's no looking back, nor looking forward. How are you doing
right now? That's all Hashem wants to know

Oh, and one last thing. The handbook suggests progressively more intense tools, if what we've been trying till now hasn't worked. So you've tried the forum... what's next to try? After all, we gotta heal from this disease before it kills us. If Tylenol is not helping, maybe we need anti-biotics... maybe even chemo. Are you willing to give it your all and fulfill what you came down to this world to do? It's only 120 years here, and it's eternity there. Eternity is, like, forever. you know...
