Friday  ~  Erev Shabbos Parshas Lech Lecha
12 Cheshvan, 5770  ~  October 30, 2009

 
In Today’s Issue
 
·  Anecdote of the Day (1): "Lost my Internet for the Night"
·  Anecdote of the Day (2): "Holy Rage"
·  Torah Thought of the Day: The Bright Colors of Sedom
·  Attitude Tip of the Day: "Surrender" – Part 1
·  Personal Victory of the Day: "Surrender" – Part 2
·  Daily Dose of Dov: Self Knowledge
·  Saying of the Day: The Challenge
 
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Don't Live in the Problem, Live in the Solution.

 
Today I want to share some big Yesodos that I learned from Dov. (If anyone has experience with what really works, it's Dov. Once a slave to an all-consuming lust addiction, Dov is now sober for over 11 years! See Dov's story here).
It often takes a lot of trying and failing before we are finally able to say in all honesty – as Chazal say, "If Hashem would not help him, there is no way he can beat him (the Yetzer Hara)". …

Q & A of the Day
Won't Marriage Solve my Problems?

I've been slipping a lot lately, doing things and going places I know shouldn't. It's so hard to fight this addiction. I feel a desperate …

R' Avraham J. Twerski, MD, is the founder and medical director of Gateway Rehabilitation Center and is one of the world's leading experts on addictions today. He is also the author of over 50 books and a Gadol in Klal Yisrael. Rabbi Twerski offers GuardYourEyes vital guidance and often contributes articles to our network. (Click on the picture of Rabbi Twerski to view a page of various tips, articles and correspondence that we have had with Rabbi Twerski in the past).

Rabbi Twerski sent us the following …

A BIG Mazal Tov to Yakov Schwartz
for reaching half a year clean!

"Ykv_schwartz" (not his real name on Earth, but probably the name he will be greeted with after 120!) started his journey to sobriety (with us) on Feb. 5, at the Levaya of Rav Noach Weinberg z"l. He reached 90 days and joined the "Wall of Hashem's Honor" during the Seffira on the day of "Yesod She'binetzach". Yesod represents Shmiras Habris, and Netzach means FOREVER!!
And what better and more appropriate day could there be for hitting half …

Not long ago, an amazing warrior joined our ranks. At first he called himself "Jerusalem addict", but as he got more comfortable in the amazing community on the forum, he started to call himself "Uri". Today everyone on the forum knows and LOVES Uri. He has been fighting a bitter battle against his addiction, but at the same time, he has been posting amazing Divrei Chizuk and Divrei Torah to inspire us all. There is a great soul in this Uri, and although he had a fall recently, he was …

Our "Excuses" List
By "Momo"
In yesterday's conference call with Duvid Chaim (click here for info on how to join), we discussed the realization that we usually come up with some lame excuse as to why we should take our first "lust hit", and we rationalize why we can start act out. And once we start, we can't stop!
When I first read this in the Big Book (when I wasn't feeling lustful but rather with full mental capacity), I actually made a list of excuses that the little voice …

Mazal Tov Miri on Reaching 90 Days!
She is now on the "Wall of Hashem's Honor"

I want to share what Miri posted today on the forum. Not only is it a great story and testimonial, but there is so much we can all learn from her:

WOW!!! I really appreciate everyone's congratulations on my reaching 90 clean days. It has been some journey. I started on this forum a little over 5 months ago and I have …

Tips from the Warriors on Guarding the Eyes

Ahron Posted on the Forum:

I have gotten to the point where I can occasionally understand why "normal" people view p***n as repulsive (not all the …

Drowned in Water Rather than in Lust

 
Tisha Be'av is a day to remember the shiploads of young men and women that were shipped off to Rome after the Churban to be used in "human trafficking", but instead of allowing their bodies to be defiled, they gathered together and jumped into the sea, drowning Al Kiddush Hashem. Let us remember their sacrifice to stay pure, to completely give up their bodies to Hashem rather than let themselves be defiled. When we feel like lust is attempting to drown us, we should …