Question: MosheF asks:
I am part of a non-Jewish 12-Step SA fellowship. I wish there was a solution to the disease of addiction in yiddishkeit, but to the best of my knowledge there is none. There is hardly mention of the concept of addiction or a solution in chazal or mussar seforim. This begs for an explanation that I don't have. 

Rabbi/Dr.Twersky responded to one such question here and he writes as follows: "Whereas forbidden sexual activity certainly occurred, I doubt that the phenomenon of sexual addiction was ever brought to the attention of the authors …

I know you are not a Rav, but I have a question: What do you think of one who stops being shomer negiya in order to eventually get married? If he doesn't engage in anything below the belt, is this an acceptable compromise for a chozer betshuva? I simply don't think I could get into a serious relationship while being shomer, and my community isn't, so it's either this or I'll never find a girl.
 
 
Dear Jew,
 
Not being "Shomer Negiah" is not a Halachic option, and furthermore, it would only make …

I think I have a bit of a dif. problem then a bunch of u guys… I’m a 19 year old kid and always have a smile on my face and just love speaking to people, and for some reason, it just gets me into major trouble, I mean MAJOR! I have a laptop in yeshiva and don’t feel an urge to watch porn and stuff online, but I’m struggling with by far harder probs. For example, how in the world am I meant to tell a married woman who …

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We sent Rabbi Twerski the following question:
Dear Rabbi Twerski,
There was a lively discussion on our forum over here recently about whether or not we should tell children how babies are born, and at what age, and how much to reveal, etc… 
If the Rav has time to read some of the points of view that were expressed on the forum (my own included), the Rav will see that there are many good points brought up in each direction, and we would greatly appreciate some guidance from the Rav on this …

We sent Rabbi Twerski the following question:
Dear Rabbi Twerski,
There was a lively discussion on our forum over here recently about whether or not we should tell children how babies are born, and at what age, and how much to reveal, etc… 
If the Rav has time to read some of the points of view that were expressed on the forum (my own included), the Rav will see that there are many good points brought up in each direction, and we would greatly appreciate some guidance from the Rav on this …

One of our daughters is extremely emotional. I tend to deal with her by telling her to be quite and go rest, and at times I can be very snappy with her. My wife tells me to go easy on her; she needs understanding and affection.

I was trying my wife's approach; trying to listen nicely and give her hugs [she's only six!].

Suddenly this interaction was having an affect on me that it shouldn't. I withdrew, but not enough. This scared me!
 
Answer:
 
Your honesty is refreshing. Unfortunately, this is not as unusual as most …

I've got a boy who is about 9.  He's got a friend who is touchy-feely.  I can't say they're doing anything wrong, but he just sort of hangs from my son a bit much. It makes me uncomfortable.

On the other hand, I'm not touchy feely myself.  So maybe it's just a personality difference. Also, I'm a major homophobe (no offense). So maybe I'm just hypersensitive. Is my concern valid?
 
Answer:
 
If they just hold hands, I wouldn't be concerned, but if they enjoy fighting and rolling over each other and/or one sitting astride the other, …

Hi i am a desperate parent. My 14 year old son is a 9th grader in a charedi yeshiva. Over the last few months I have caught him doing inappropriate things. We have tried to speak with him and get him to stop but I believe that he is addicted and can’t stop. I think he stumbled onto some sites on the internet and my husband and I are terrified for him and what this will do to his future. We are desperate for help and do not know where …

I caught my 6 year old daughter pleasuring herself. I don’t want this to develop into an addiction, is there anything I can do now to prevent this from continuing?
 
The GYE Rebbetzin responds.
 
I had hoped to really answer with profession opinions behind me, but haven’t reached a therapist yet in order to ask his opinion. So I figure, let me answer what my take on it is, and can always backtrack later if and when proven wrong!
First of all, I really don’t think you should panic. As an addict yourself, I definitely understand …