One of our goals on GuardYourEyes is to help people "Hit bottom while still on top". Don't wait for the addiction to destroy your life!
 
Please read through some of these stories to see where the addiction leads to, and get the help you need now – while you’re still on top, no matter what it takes!
 
1) Where it All Leads
 
2) Serial Killers
 
3) Women tell of their husband’s (or ex-husband’s) addiction
 
4) The Typical Suffering of the Wife of an Addict
 
5) A Typical e-mail to GYE
 
6) Dov’s Story
 

 
One of …

I was on the street, walking back from getting lunch at a milchig restaurant in Manhattan because of course, it's the Nine Days so we don't eat meat. But the Yetzer Hara doesn't mind that one, it seems. He was much more intent on getting me to lust after women who felt that 90 degrees and humid justifies… fill in the blank. So I played out the following scenario:
Let's say I let him win and give in to lust. Of course, the fantasy alone will not satisfy the craving, it …

I picked up tonight and headed out to the Kosel, the last remnant of our Holy Temple, as I have been doing a lot lately. I took my younger brother with me. I walked up to the wall and touched the familiar stones which I have visited so often in my recent quest for G-d. The stones smiled a sad smile at me: "Back again? You've been around a lot lately. We don't mind though, we've been lonely for so long". My friends, do you know what loneliness is? The …

By "Uri"
 
Yasher Koach to those who responded so brilliantly and encouragingly on the forum. I'm going through a very trying time here, even though I'm only at 11 days; not 90, not 200, just ELEVEN. What will day 90 be like?? But I know what everyone will say: "one day at a time". On the other hand, as someone so nicely pointed out: There are around 900,000 seconds already that I said "No" to the yetzer hara. 900,000!! If those were dollars I could retire! And we all know that …

Here's what helped me after a 15 year addiction. . . A rabbi was saying that if you would rather DIE than eat a bug, that Hashem won't have it happen that you will ever eat a bug. I had heard this before as a Chasidic story, but the Rabbi said it in such a way, he said that if there is any sin which you would rather DIE than do it, than Hashem won't let it happen that you will sin. That teaching hit me like a ton of …

Uri (clean for 11 days) wrote on the forum:
I'm still clean, but barely holding on. I'm in a terrible mood and I'm having trouble getting hold of myself. I was so good this week, I feel like crying. When I drove home tonight I passed town and I felt such mixed feelings. I saw teens just feeding off lust with no inhibitions. I felt angry that they could fill their needs while I sit and struggle to keep myself in check. They look so happy, while I feel so discontent.
One …

By "Ben-Moshe" (who is sober for approx. 3 years)
At first it will seem next to impossible. You will feel antsy and be unable to focus. You will barely be able to stifle your yawns. You won't be able to wrap your mind around a simple piece of shaklah ve'taryah. But rejoice. That is the perfect raw material to work with. The tumah toxins inside you are screaming against the powerful chemo treatment of the "samah de'chaya" – the elixir of life. Focus, focus, focus. Drag yourself through the Gemara, then Rashi, then Tosefos, …

"Battleworn" posted a beautiful series of posts called "The Torah Approach" to breaking free of addiction, and he asked "Dov" the following question: "If he (Dov) had known the Yesodos of the "Torah Approach" before he joined SA, would he have still needed the 12-Step program in SA to find freedom from his addiction?"
Dov Answers as follows:
The answer of my heart to your question is "no", I did not know these things. Furthermore, I believe that had I known them, I would never have needed SA.
But let's get honest here …

A Beautiful Letter from "Yechidah" to everyone on our network

Dear brothers and sisters,
The Bal Shem Tov says that the 42 locations that Klal Yisroel went through in the desert correspond to 42 stages that a Yid must go through in life.
Every location we have to be in is with Hashgacha Pratis. It has to be that way. To emphasize this, Moishe Rabbeinu wrote all the travels and locations down. Moshe, the Anov, taught us that we too have to be Anavim, realizing that every place is Hashem's Place. And it …

Hashem gives us these struggles so that we can make beautiful jewels for His crown through them. Rabbosai, share with us your thoughts from the times you have struggles and overcome them! By sharing and inspiring many other people as well, you will be uplifting your struggles to the highest level of Hashem's honor!
Someone wrote me recently:
I was lying in bed the other night feeling depressed and needy, craving and wishing that I could have the ultimate fantasy right now. And suddenly a thought came to me and I said to …